Many men have an overwhelming need for approval. This need can be found in all aspects of our lives, from flirting and dating to business and family.
In this article, we will discuss why you should stop obsessing over winning women’s approval. We’ll cover the following reasons: 1. It’s Unnatural.
1. It’s Unnatural
While it’s natural to care about how others think of you, caring too much can turn into a toxic obsession. Obsession can make you clingy and untrusting, which can cause you to close yourself off to opportunities. It can also prevent you from growing as a person and getting healthier connections.
Ultimately, the problem with needing women’s approval is that it makes you a people-pleaser. It can be difficult to break out of this vicious cycle, but it’s possible. The first step is understanding where the need comes from. The roots of this behavior are likely buried in your childhood, so it’s important to dig up those seeds and get to the bottom of the issue. From there, you can start healing. Becoming a non-people-pleaser will allow you to be happier and more respectful of yourself and others.
2. It Leads to Getting Rejected
The need for approval can lead to behavior that actually increases your chances of getting rejected. For example, when you are obsessed with someone, you might be more likely to overdo things in an attempt to win their approval, such as oversharing or overdoing the compliments.
This can make them seem pushy or arrogant and cause you to get rejected. It also may make them feel like you are trying to manipulate them or steal their affections.
Research shows that people who routinely experience social rejection can develop beliefs such as ‘people always hurt me,’ ‘I am not worth love’ or ‘No one can ever be trusted.’ These beliefs can lead to self-destructive behaviors, including a lack of personal boundaries and low self-esteem.
3. It’s Unhealthy
Obsession squeezes all the fun out of a relationship and causes you to become jealous of anyone who is not your partner. It also leads to clinginess, which is the antithesis of love. Love is about letting your partner be the best version of themselves both individually and as part of a couple.
It’s important to recognize that this need for approval is unhealthy and has its roots in childhood experiences. Once you have a handle on the reason for your obsession, it is easier to cure yourself. This will allow you to be happier, more confident, respectful, and a better partner and friend. And it will prevent you from closing out opportunities to be with someone who may actually be a better fit for you than the person you are obsessing over.
4. It Can Close Your Opportunities
You might be obsessed over a woman who doesn’t work out, but she might be a good match for another guy. She might not have the same interests as you, but she might be a good friend. You might be in a relationship where you can’t communicate well, but she’s a great support system for you. The problem is that you’re obsessing over her instead of focusing on the person you are with.
Obsessing over a woman is unhealthy and can lead to a variety of problems, including being jealous of her friends or partners, feeling unloved, and losing your self-esteem. In addition, it can put a strain on your relationships with other women and friends. It can also cause you to stop living your life because you want to focus on her.
This type of obsession is often a sign of a mental health condition, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). If you are having an obsessive obsession with someone, you may need to seek therapy to help you deal with it.